The speech in a eulogy?
What words should be used in a funeral eulogy?
Speaking on a eulogy is an important and difficult task. All the more arduous as the loss of a loved one can be a terrible ordeal. Bereavement, the proof of cremation and the placing of Ash Cinerary urn contributes in addition to making the eulogy that you have to make difficult.
In order to help you, in these painful moments, here are some tips that will guide you in your last tribute.
How do I write your funeral eulogy?
Start by preparing your eulogy. Let us remember that a eulogy, eulogy, is a speech that praises the deceased, extolling his qualities, tells his life, his work, in order to honor the memory of the deceased.
You must therefore trace his life and talk about the great moments of her life, such as obtaining an important diploma, her first job, her marriage, the birth of her children. Anything that was significant can be narrated.
Talk about the person. Its character, its qualities, even its defects if these are told in such a way as to emphasize a strong temperament. For example, if the deceased was known to be stubous, you can say that it was because of his tenacity that he managed to get a rewarding job.
You can tell stories, little stories that make a smile. Humour is not taboo, as long as you stay in good taste. Keep in mind, however, that some things should not be told, anything that might offend or embarrass family or friends is to be avoided. In the doubt, do not mention some facts, no matter how anecdotal.
If the deceased loved a song, a poem, a quote, a book passage, nothing prevents them from mentioning them and including them in your praise.
How to collect information and what to adopt?
You made a commitment to write the praise, you took note of the advice given above, but how to get information? The best way is to talk to those who have shared their lives, especially family members. Listening is a way to gather information, such as important dates, highlights, and also to be able to focus on what people have chosen from the deceased. Don't hesitate to listen to them to remember their memories.
The tone of it, is unique to each person. You are not even expecting you to sing for this occasion. The most important thing is to write in a fluid and coherent way in order to be understood by everyone and not to have the air to make a formal and impersonal speech.
Now that you have enough information, you only have to write and prepare your eulogy. There is a need for calm. If you wish, put a little music, install yourself comfortably and write. You may be overwhelmed by emotion at the moment. That is quite normal. Let yourself go before you go back.
Once your text is written, leave it aside and read the calmly later. Check that it sinks on its own, is not too long. Remove unnecessary words and words and put it in shape if necessary, so that it can be read as easily as possible. Remember that you must be comfortable with the speech, that it must be based on your feelings towards the deceased.
The Funeral Speech
Before you go to the crematorium, you can make copies of your eulogy and distribute it to loved ones. Relatives only have the funeral urn to gather and remember, your eulogy is another way to remember the deceased and the person he was. When you have to speak, breathe calmly and deeply. Don't forget to speak out and articulate so that everyone can understand you. If you feel that you are going to be too upset or that you are going to cry, let yourself go and pause by breathing again deeply.
Once you're done, you can let yourself go and you can tell yourself that you've done the most beautiful thing you can do: pay tribute to someone you loved.